So they got together and had North. They are engaged. They did a music video together showcasing their love. Now there is a Vogue cover with them on it. People are outraged. Really?? I seriously don't care about what they do. I do not know them personally, I have not a dime invested in them. But still, these two are always in someone's mouth. Let's get real for a minute shall we:
When life gives you lemons: Make the best damn lemonade possible!
I think know that Kim did not get a fair shake when that video came out. If she had not come out in the video, many would not care about the television show "Keeping up with the Kardashians", she would have just been another round the way chick who happened to get a television deal. Since it did happen however, society looks for every reason and opportunity to find fault in her and her family. She took advantage of the way she was exposed and decided to take negative situation and turn it into a positive.
I like Kanye. If you really sit and listen to him talk in the video below you will see, not someone unstable but someone who isn't a rapper but a man trying to go about his life. He is intelligent. He is always ranting and raving because he is always on edge. He can't even have a decent interview without someone saying something rude or bring up his past blow up. Check out his other videos and you will see what he wants to accomplish in life but can get a fair shake because people judge (as often do) before they really get a chance to talk to him.
I do not own this video
I know many will not agree with me and that is cool. But I think when people are quick to judge based on what someone else WANTS them to see then it's wrong and unfair. These two, as well as other celebs, I am sure, are getting paid off of the hatred that many expose to them on a daily basis. And while the money maybe good, it does affect them emotionally because instead of looking at their craft, at their gift, their moments of weaknesses are what's being televised, what's making news. It seems that in today's world you are no body unless you are hated. I rather be loved and just a normal person than to be someone who is popular and hated by everyone. As the saying goes, when it comes to popularity, it all falls down.
That day when you decide to leave it all behind. The day you decide that you will no longer listen to the lies. The day you are tired of migraines and tension between your brows because you feel compelled to solve problems that are not of your own. The day when you decide to take back the life you never got to live because you were not allowed to be a kid but was expected to understand adult situations. One day, you have to get a grasp on things before you lose yourself into oblivion. You have to distance yourself from those who are still in turmoil, those who like to see confusion in your life as well as within your family. You have to back away from "friends" who secretly despise your existence because they see the greatness in you that you may not see in yourself. You have to reach into your inner being and focus on what is it and where it is that you want to leave your mark. You are not getting any younger but older and with that is suppose to be a surge of wisdom. The day you decide to live for you and to have what you see as a new beginning. The day you decide to take that plunge on a new job or degree. The day you decide to give pup what is harmful to you is the day you decide to get off the edge and FLY.
Been on this adventure to lose weight. Again. I had not been as successful as I had in the past. With all the information you about eating you can devour (no pun intended, lol) over the internet nowadays, it is a wonder any of us have lost weight at all. Back to my story. So I was exercising and eating better and exercising and eating better. Yet, I only lost maybe 3 lbs before it stalled. Then I switched birth control pills and the weight went back up. SUCKS!!! Now in the past, I would have given up and drowned my sorrows (and waist line) in food and whined, "DAMN GENETICS" while still trying to fit in clothes from 3 pregnancies ago.
WELL……about 3 days ago, I drunk a cup of 3 Ballerinas Tea (which I don't think I can recommend, but that will come at a later date as to why). And after a severe migraine, I thought, "There truly has to be a better way for me". Some people are very fortunate to lose weight like that *snaps fingers*, some can stop eating certain foods and the weight just falls off. And some go the route of weight loss surgery. Well, I like food. I have counted calories, I have restricted some foods. Hell, I have even done a challenged to go vegetarian for 21 days, which lasted only 18 days after getting serious headaches repeatedly. That shit is not for the faint of heart. You have to have serious dedication or at least in my opinion a need to have some form of control in your life that is missing somewhere else.
After I contemplated whether I was going to die or not and having my lovely husband get me an advil, I felt better and decided that I will do watch not what I eat but HOW MUCH I eat. 3 days later? So far so good. I lost a 1 lb. by switching the types of dishes I used to serve my food from larger ones to smaller ones. And if I snack, I don't mindlessly snack, I have the serving size of chocolate or ice cream and that is it. No double dipping. I also listen to my body. Unless I'm dry heaving from hunger or so disillusioned where I mistake my living as the kitchen, then there is not need for me to eat every time my kids eat, or because the food is just there.
The trick is to "trick" your eyes into looking at food on a different scale. When we go to asian restaurants, we often are served rice in bowls. That bowl is usually the recommended serving size of 1 cup. Now if you put that rice in the standard restaurant plate which is 11 in., that 1 cup of rice might look mighty small. And so far for me, I do get a sense of "fullness" just by switching plate sizes. I don't feel like I am about to burst wide open nor do I have the beloved it is. In short, it has been working. Now I do not know how long I will keep this up. I am planning to make this a lifetime lifestyle. I can still eat what I want in moderation. I'm not denying myself. And when my body says "when", I know that I have gotten enough to eat.
Here is a great video on portions.
This gives you an idea of the sizes that were used around the 50's (she says the year in the video) vs the size of plates that are used today.
Did not want to write. Not because I did not have anything to write about. Not because I just got tired or just really hated writing. Nope. None of those reasons. Wish it was one of those things. It would make what I am about to confess easier.
I wanted to have views, followers, popularity and in my mind, I felt the need to be politically correct. I felt that I needed to tip toe around what I really feel to make my potential viewers comfortable, to be more likable. The crazy thing about all of this is that I usually do not care what others think, or feel about me because I do things according to my views and how I feel, unfortunately, this was not one of them. I think people see through you even in writing because I have views but not much. I have gained a little momentum on my Facebook group page but it has been the same people since I made the page last year. And honestly, it all feels fake. So why in the hell did I feel the need to do that in the first place? Simple. In the real world, OUTSIDE of this virtual community that we have, I am the woman that doesn't follow the herd like mentality. If I don't agree with the masses, I JUST DO NOT AGREE, PERIOD. I tend to lean on facts than outright emotions. AND that sometimes, does not win me fans. And I am accepting that it is really okay to not have a big fanfare.
I decided to do my blog a little different. The way it should have been done in the first place. From the heart, from the mind. Without thinking of how to put things in a way as to be gentle as a lamb and to be soothing as ocean's waves as to not hurt anyone's feelings or make anyone feel uneasy. My blog is to make you think, feel, react (in a positive manner, I'm hoping), and hopefully uplift and awake you to your full potential, whether you like it or not.
